Seduction is the dying art of the tease, and it is subtler and more elegant than just being sexy. It takes finesse. It creates anticipation -- possibilities and unspoken promises -- communicated through casual looks, delicate gestures and body language.
There is no question that men find seductive women intoxicating, and even if being seductive doesn’t come naturally to you, it is possible to cultivate this art form in yourself. It may just be hiding underneath learned inhibitions.
Start by trying to bring your natural seductive side to the surface. Use your senses to discover what makes you feel seductive -- colors, lighting, textures, scents, music and tastes that make you feel more alive. Let a truffle melt in your mouth, caress your skin with scented lotion, stretch like a leopard.
If you find it difficult to get in touch with your inner seductress, here are ten ways you can be more seductive on a date – with a new man or a long-term partner.
1. Magnetic moves
Watch yourself in front of a mirror and become aware of how you move. Watch films, and emulate an actress you find seductive, pretending that you’re her. You could even take a pole dancing class. What you learn will naturally affect your day-to-day movements in small ways. Then you won’t have to work at it as you gracefully pick up a wine glass or bend down to adjust the strap of your sandal.
2. Slow wins the race
Speaking of the way you move, when it comes to seduction, the tortoise would have it all over the hare. Slow movements of your hands and body are the way to tease and seduce.
Watch videos of burlesque performers like Dita Von Teese. It’s all about the breathless anticipation.
3. The seduction of soft
Wear soft, touchable fabrics like silks, satins, and velvets. Even if he doesn’t get a chance to touch your clothing, the look of the fabrics alone will seduce him into thinking about the softness of your skin.
4. A hint of contact
Touch or groom him when the opportunity arises. Your move can be as simple as slightly brushing his hair off his face or adjusting his tie or shirt collar. Then, look him in the eyes and smile for a second or two. Touch his hand or arm for emphasis during your conversation. For example, you might place your hand on top of his for a couple of seconds when you say, “I loved that movie, too!”
5. Your eyes speak a thousand words
When you touch his hand or arm, look down at it for a second. Then, dart your eyes back up to gaze at him while keeping your chin slightly lowered. Chances are, this move will have him tingling all over.
The way you use your eyes can be enormously seductive. When your back is toward him, turn your head and smile at him, lift your shoulder up slightly so that your chin rests against it, and gaze up at him. While sitting across from him or from across the room, try holding his gaze for at least three seconds, look down shyly for a couple of seconds, and then back up to his eyes.
Melanie Votaw is a freelance writer and photographer in New York City and the author of 12 non-fiction books, including "52 Weeks of Passionate Sex."