Is your sex life barely breathing? Could it use some CPR? If so, you're far from alone. Few couples manage to keep a high level of passion after the novelty has worn off, and most need a jump start at some point to get their hearts pumping fast again.
But the last thing you want to do is react like the majority of couples: Cheat, break up, or resign yourself to a life of sex that's as exciting as watching paint dry.
Unfortunately, most people believe the only way to quicken their pulse is to find a new partner, but that's a myth – and a very destructive one. All you may need is a transfusion of a little romance and seduction to resuscitate your relationship.
So as soon as your eyes start to wander, it's time for emergency measures. Just don't call 911. Instead, bring back a little bit of the "thrill of the chase."
You remember "the chase" – that anticipation you felt while the two of you were dating. "Will he kiss me?" "Will she finally make love with me tonight?" Once a couple has become sexual, the mystery is dissipated, anticipation flies out the window, and it's easy to lose interest. We jump into bed, often skip foreplay because we're tired, and use sex as nothing more than a way to release tension. Intimacy becomes an after-thought.
The key is to stop rushing through sex and have fun again, prolonging the tension until you want each other as much as when you were dating.
Here are ten ideas that can be heart-stopping … but in a good way!
Melanie Votaw is a freelance writer and photographer in New York City and the author of 12 non-fiction books, including "52 Weeks of Passionate Sex."